Trust Creates Peace…
Saturday, September 27, 2014
My elderly Dad has been on hospice since December. As his primary family caregiver, I've observed him accept his fate with grace and patience. I've determined that TRUST is the key to his acceptance and peace. But trust in what?
Trust in God - Yes, my father has a strong faith in God. Though he strayed from his Baptist roots for many years, the flames of religion were rekindled for him nearly two decades ago. No doubt his religious faith…his trust in a loving God…brings him peace.
Trust in Family – Though Dad has delegated many of the household responsibilities to me and other trusted family members, he still tries to stay involved with financial management and a few “high-level” tasks. (His mind is still sharp, even at 92+!) Not all families are as fortunate as ours. My 2 brothers and I also have a “high-trust” relationship, so we don’t experience family squabbles about money, care for Mom and Dad, etc. This brings Dad peace.
Trust in Hospice- I’ve never heard a bad thing about hospice workers – ever. I suppose somewhere in the country someone has some complaints, but I’ve never heard them. My father’s hospice team – Registered Nurse, Social Worker, Personal-Care Aids, Doctor, Chaplain and Volunteers – have all been wonderful. In a very short time, Dad developed a “trust relationship” with these fine people. This brings Dad peace.
Trust in Caregivers- Our independent private-pay caregivers have certainly earned our trust. They work well with Dad’s hospice workers and provide thoughtful and skilled care for both Mom and Dad when I’m gone. I can’t overstate the importance that this “trust relationship” means to all of us in the family…especially because we know… this brings Dad peace.
If you’re a family caregiver, like me, it may be beneficial for you to evaluate the level of trust that surrounds you and your family.
- Be certain that your frail and vulnerable loved-ones have a “high-level of trust” in caregivers and other helpers.
- Acknowledge that it takes time to build trust and be sure that you plan accordingly. Allow time for trust to develop with new caregivers and respect the importance of the communication process.
- Trust is dynamic…and must be actively maintained. Explore ways to build, maintain and repair trust with your elderly parents.
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Deb S. is a business consultant who moved in with her elderly parents in September of 2013 to augment their in-home care. Her mother, 89, suffers from dementia, heart disease, diabetes and is currently battling breast cancer (#3!); her father, 92, has terminal heart disease and has been on hospice since December, 2013. Deb writes exclusively for SYNERGY HomeCare offices in Washington and Oregon. She welcomes your feedback and ideas for future blog topics. firstname.lastname@example.org