Your mom or dad need help around the home. A chronic condition impacts what your parent is able to do independently. Maybe mobility has changed following a stroke or Alzheimer's has put your parent at risk of harm if he/she is not supervised all day.
Wanting to personally provide that care is a normal response. It's not something everyone can handle, however. You need to make sure you have these four qualities.
Your parent will have good days and bad days. On the bad days, you'll take some abuse. It may be a verbal tirade directed at you. You might find your frustrated parent pushing you away. Some family caregivers get bitten, scratched, and slapped when trying to provide care to parents who are angry and agitated.
It may seem impossible, but patience is necessary. You have to be ready to ignore the harsh words and treatments. You have to remember that it's not always personal. It's often the frustration caused by the changing abilities.
Stamina and Strength
You'll be doing a lot of work as a family caregiver. Make sure you have the energy levels needed to keep up with daily cleaning, linen changeovers, help in the shower, and transfers. If you struggle to lift your parent up and that's one of the things your parent needs help with, you may end up needing additional hands.
No one wants to say that finances matter when it comes to caregiving, but it is an important factor. If you're giving up a full-time job to care for an aging parent, it can have serious repercussions. When it's time for you to retire, will you have enough money?
If decades from now you find yourself needing home care services, would quitting a job now affect your ability to pay for elderly care aides in the future? You have to stop and think about that.
The Courage to Ask for Help
Is it wrong if you're not sure you can handle the duties required of you to care for a parent? Never! Unpaid care is difficult and isn't a viable option for everyone. If you know there's no way it would work out, call an elderly care agency.
A professional caregiver can help your mom or dad out. You'll be able to visit as often as you can, but you don't have to give up your job, social activities, or other obligations. Plus, your parent is in excellent hands with the professionals hired through an elderly care agency.
If you or an aging loved one are considering elderly care in Arvada, CO, please contact the caring staff at SYNERGY HomeCare West Denver. Call today: (720) 263-6060.