It's time to talk about home care. It's not always an easy discussion. Your parents may see themselves as fully capable of caring for themselves. You've seen things that worry you. You'd feel better if they have a caregiver helping with certain activities of daily living.
Bringing up the home care talk can be challenging. Your parents may argue. They may refuse to listen. It's still a conversation you need to have. Here are six ways to bring it up.
Talk About Your Own Struggles
Instead of saying how your parent needs home care. Talk about the challenges you have. Discuss how hard it is to keep up with housework, errands, and work. When your parents start agreeing and saying they have the same struggles, ask if they've ever thought about having in-home help. Continue the conversation from there.
Ask What They Feel is Hard About Aging at Home
Ask your parents what they struggle to do each day. You might be surprised by the things they admit are hard. You might see your parent as fully able to drive, but your parent is terrified when it's time to drive somewhere.
Explain How it Would Help Others
Instead of suggesting home care as a solution to your parents, say it would help you. Talk about how stressed you've been worrying about your parents getting to the store when you can't take time off work. Address your fears and discuss how different home care services would ease them.
Play One Parent Off the Other
Mention that while one parent is fully capable to do things, you've noticed the other struggles more. The parent who has a harder time with daily tasks would benefit from extra help. Your parent is more likely to do something if it's helping a spouse or partner.
Get Family Friends to Talk About What It's Really Like
Your parents may worry that a caregiver will impact their independence. Get someone they trust to talk about what it's like having a caregiver. Once they hear personal stories, they may be more willing to give it a try.
Ask if They'd Consider a Trial
If your parents think they'll only have caregivers for a short period of time, they may be less stressed. Instead of saying this is a long-term plan, ask if they'd be willing to try having caregivers helping out for a month. If the month comes and they don't feel it's helped, you can discuss other options.
Once you have your parents agreeing to try home care services, don't delay arranging it. Call a home care agency immediately to discuss the services that would benefit your mom and dad.
If you or an aging loved one are considering homecare in Coal Creek, CO, please contact the caring staff at SYNERGY HomeCare West Denver. Call today: (720) 263-6060.