There are certainly going to be times when you need to say no to being a caregiver. If the elderly individual who requires care refuses to do anything to make their home safe, or doesn’t allow anyone to change things or remove clutter, for example, then you will end up in a dangerous situation.
No matter how much you care for someone, especially when they are family, there’s no reason why you should be putting your own health and safety at risk because he or she doesn’t want to take the necessary steps to ensure safety within their home.
Home care providers, whether they are family members or strangers, tend to do a great deal to support elderly individuals in the comfort of their own home. This allows them to stay out of nursing homes and other much more costly forms of care. It also does great things for their emotional well-being to remain where they are most comfortable.
For some people, though, getting older and dealing with the effects of age and time can be difficult to handle. As a result, they may hold on to certain possessions much longer than they might have if they didn’t have these issues. Hording is one of the facets of these problems.
If you’ve ever seen the television program ‘Hoarders,’ then you know what it can be like to walk into a home of one of these people. It can be, in a word, unsafe, and that’s putting it mildly.
If you are the caregiver for an elderly individual who has trouble keeping things neat within their home, if they have too much garbage lying around, and you believe that it’s not a safe situation for them or for you, then you should tell them it’s time to clean up. If they won’t or won’t allow you to do anything to improve the safety and cleanliness of their home, then you can say that you will no longer be their home care provider.
Safety needs to be priority number one and if you don’t feel safe while you walk into their home, if you believe that you would be putting yourself at risk, then you have every right to deny providing home care to them.
Even if it’s your aging mother or father, while you don’t want to see them get hurt, you need to protect yourself. If you believe that they hoard possessions and need help, then you can suggest that they speak to a mental health counselor. If you honestly feel that they are a danger to themselves or others, talk to a lawyer who specializes in these situations, but know that it could take years to come to any resolution.
If you or an aging loved one are considering a caregiver in Redding, CT or the surrounding areas, please contact SYNERGY HomeCare of Danbury, CT at (203) 312-7920.