Regret is like a disease that no one really wants to have. Yet most of us have some level of regret in our life. When it comes to elder care decisions, you may be experiencing a number of regrets. If it is about your care or someone you love, regret can cause you to feel depressed, angry, or afraid of making other decisions in the future.
It is crucial that you learn to shake off regret when it comes to elderly home care and decisions that were made.
Throughout life there are always going to be should have, would have, and other missed opportunities. Playing the Monday morning quarterback routine is simple when you are looking back at decisions you made. However, it doesn’t do anything to improve your life or the life of the patient.
Some tips that can help you to shake off regret with regard to elder care are as follows:
1. Embrace the fact that you are human.
We are human. As humans, we will make mistakes. As long as the mistake isn’t life-threatening, then it’s time to just accept it for what it is: an opportunity to learn something new.
You are human so stop trying to hold yourself up to some idea of being perfect. You are not perfect and neither is the caregiver or the patient.
2. Focus on productive thoughts.
Having regrets is like throwing an anchor off a boat when you are trying to reach your destination. The anchor is going to drag along the bottom, slowing the boat down to a crawl or even a dead stop. Instead, think about productive things that you can do with or for the patient to improve the quality of care now.
3.Connect with yourself.
When we regret certain elder care decisions that impact a loved one, we tend to eventually put ourselves behind their needs. The problem with that is giving up your own life because you feel guilty about something is not going to serve anybody any good.
You need to reconnect with yourself and pursue your interests.
4. Seek out support.
There are plenty of ways that you can get support for yourself or an elderly individual. Just because you need support doesn’t mean that you are incapable of being a caregiver or providing proper elder care.
Support can give you new perspectives on various things and that can help you see that what you are regretting now isn’t as bad as you thought it was.
If you or an aging loved one are considering elder care in Southbury, CT or the surrounding areas, please contact SYNERGY HomeCare of Danbury, CT at (203) 312-7920.