Elderly Care in Southbury CT
Has one of your parents recently died and the surviving one struggling to cope with the loss? Or maybe one of your parents has been gone for a while now, but the other one still remains sad. Whether either of these cases is true, or your parent remarried after the loss of a spouse and is now a widow or widower again, loss is almost tough to deal with.
As a family caregiver, you may see or talk to your parent the most, and can therefore offer the most help to them as they work through their loss. In doing so, it’s important to remember that everyone handles grief and loss differently. And whether it happened last month, last year or longer ago than that, the grieving process cannot be rushed. Some people get over loss—or seem to—rather quickly; others may never completely get over it. But whatever stage your parent is in, here are some tips to help you help them.
- Plan ahead for holidays and special days, like wedding anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Ask your parent to get together with you and your family on those days, so they’re not sitting alone with their memories and sadness. One idea to keep track of those important dates is to enter them in the calendar on your smart phone and set an alarm to notify you about them a week or two in advance. That gives you plenty of time to plan something with your parent so the day doesn’t sneak up on you. One word of caution: If your parent insists they’d rather be alone on a special day or holiday, respect that.
- Allow them to remember their loved one. Maybe they want to look through photo albums, watch an old video, or just relive special memories. Ask them questions about their loved one, like how they met, special things they remember about them, what they loved most about them, etc.
- Help them honor their loved one’s memory by visiting the cemetery and placing flowers or a special memento on their grave; lighting a candle in their memory; or doing something else that may remind them of their loved one.
- When a spouse dies, traditions may also die with them. Encourage your parent to start a new tradition, rather than doing what they’ve always done or what’s merely expected of them.
- Don’t expect too much from your parent on these occasions, holidays or their own special days. Attending big family gatherings, helping to prepare a large meal or partaking in several activities or social engagements can be overwhelming for anyone, much less someone who is dealing with a loss. So, keep it relatively low key and let your parent decide what and how much they want to do on those days.
- If your parent wants to talk to a professional about their loss, help them find one. You could also help them find a support group for the bereaved.
If you or an aging loved one are considering elderly care in Southbury, CT or the surrounding areas, please contact SYNERGY HomeCare of Danbury, CT at 203-731-2544.