Dementia is overwhelming to your loved one, of course, but it's also overwhelming for you as her caregiver. There are changes that are difficult for you both to navigate and you might feel that you just don't know what to do at all.
Look at Your Own Self-care First
As your loved one's caregiver, you probably hear from a variety of sources that you have to take care of yourself first. It sounds trite, but it's absolutely accurate. The biggest potential cause for overwhelm is that you're not taking care of yourself and you're therefore not in the right emotional and physical state to be able to manage your loved one's needs. Getting back on track with your own self-care will help you immensely.
Give Yourself Permission to Have an "Off" Day
You're going to have good days as a caregiver for a loved one who has dementia and you're going to have days that just feel off. That's true no matter what you're doing because you're human. If you can go ahead and give yourself permission to just have a bad day now and again, you're not going to be so hard on yourself when you do have one.
Reach out to Other Caregivers
Other caregivers have been in your same situation. Reaching out to other caregivers through support groups and other methods allows you to pool your knowledge and share tips with each other that work. Sometimes you may only need someone to talk to who understands your frustration and your pain. Once vented, you may find that you're able to face the situation with a clearer head.
Accept and Ask for More Help from Others
You don't have to do everything on your own. Yes, you're the caregiver for your loved one, but that doesn't mean you have to manage every single task single-handedly. Start accepting help when it's offered to you and learn how to ask for help from other family members. You might even want to consider hiring elder care providers who have experience with dementia patients. The more help that you have, the better you'll be able to cope.
Regularly reassess what you need and how you're feeling. You can't correct the situation if you don't realize that you're getting off track again.
If you or an aging loved one are considering elder care in Redding, CT, or the surrounding areas, please contact SYNERGY HomeCare of Danbury, CT at 203-731-2544.