Elderly Care in Danbury CT: How Do You Handle Thanksgiving When Your Mom Has Dementia and Hates Crowds?

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How Do You Handle Thanksgiving When Your Mom Has Dementia and Hates Crowds?



Until this year, you've always held Thanksgiving at your mom's house. She has dementia and crowds are suddenly an issue. She cannot stand having people in her home. She also hates going to other people's homes. How do you handle Thanksgiving this year?

Trim the Guest List

How many people will your mom allow in her house before she's uncomfortable? Cut the guest list down to a level where she will be comfortable. This may mean you celebrate Thanksgiving with your mom one day and your sibling does a day later. If it allows everyone to have a day with your mom, the wait's worthwhile.

Skip Her House and Head to a Restaurant

You can book a room at her favorite restaurant and turn it into an early dinner out. She'll be in a location where she feels safe, but everyone is able to spend an hour or two with her. Pick a restaurant that makes her comfortable. It needs to be a place she's frequented in the past. You don' t want to introduce her to a brand new setting when she's already feeling anxious.

To ensure the restaurant can accommodate you, make these plans as far in advance as possible. Explain the issue and ask if there is a private dining room you can book for a few hours. You might have to be flexible and schedule it for a day before or after Thanksgiving. Be prepared to be flexible.

Give Her a Safe Space to Retreat To

If you do have to have Thanksgiving on the same day, set your mom up with a quiet location where she can retreat if the gathering becomes too much. You can all take turns and spend time with her in a quieter room away from the noise.

Think About What She'll Really Remember

It's tough not to have your mom with you for the holiday gathering. If she struggles with dates and times, she won't likely know it's Thanksgiving. You can always hold a Thanksgiving meal at your house with usual family members. After the holiday, you can host a quieter, stress-free meal with just your mom.

Dementia poses many challenges you don't expect. When you're a family caregiver for your mom, you learn a lot about making adjustments. One thing you can't ignore is yourself. You need time to be social, unwind, and get your own errands taken care of. Elderly care services help you achieve that.

Find out more about the services available for Alzheimer's care. Call an elderly care agency to talk to a professional.

If you or an aging loved one are considering elderly care in Danbury, CT, or the surrounding areas, please contact SYNERGY HomeCare of Danbury, CT at 203-731-2544.

Jim Crossett, Owner, SYNERGY HomeCare Danbury
Jim Crossett, Owner, SYNERGY HomeCare Danbury

Our entire staff at SYNERGY HomeCare wishes to extend our warmest welcome to you and your family as you search for the best home care services for your loved one in need.


I am Jim Crossett, president of SYNERGY HomeCare of Danbury, Connecticut. From our conveniently located office, we serve the residents of Fairfield County including the areas of Danbury, Ridgefield, Redding, New Milford and Southbury.


As you begin your selection process for the perfect living assistance for you senior family member, you are joining the ranks of many concerned children searching for non-medical in-home help. The Danbury area is home to many senior citizens and their families who are looking for a method of care that allows them to stay in the comfort of their residence. Your elderly loved one means a great deal to you and you will not be satisfied with anything but the best for them. At SYNERGY HomeCare, we go beyond your expectations and exceed the high standards you have set for their proper care.

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