Since you're a family caregiver, you may believe that demands and complaints are just a normal part of what you do. But when those demands become even more demanding, you might start to feel some stress from this constant barrage.
Validate Your Senior's Feelings
Often caregivers are confused about what validating someone's feelings means. It doesn't mean that you agree with those feelings or that you're condoning them. What you're doing when you validate those feelings is you're acknowledging how she's feeling and you're letting her know that's okay. Feelings aren't right or wrong, they just are.
Ask What You Can Do to Correct the Situation
Genuinely listen to the demands and complaints you're getting. Is there something that you can do to correct the situation? If so, it is definitely time to implement a solution. It isn't a big deal if you don't know how to correct the issue, either. Talk to your senior's doctor or other experts who can help you to craft a solution.
Make an Effort
Sometimes what your elderly family member needs to see is that you're making an effort. That you're trying to acknowledge her feelings and correct situations that don't work for her. It's possible that some of the complaints or demands that you're hearing are not accurate. This doesn't mean that your senior's feelings about them aren't valid, they are, but the situations may not be something that actually requires change. In that case, an appearance of solving the perceived problem may be what's needed.
Understand that This Is Most Likely about Something Else
Something else to consider is that this entire series of complaints, demands, and situations that make you feel terrible may be about some other issue entirely. Your senior may be feeling afraid or frustrated, which can make her lash out in ways that don't always make sense. Try to look for underlying issues that might be inspiring this reaction from your aging adult.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is to walk away for a bit. If possible, consider hiring elderly care providers that you can leave in charge for a bit. Go for a drive or a walk to help clear your mind.
If you or an aging loved one are considering elderly care in New Milford, CT, or the surrounding areas, please contact SYNERGY HomeCare of Danbury, CT at 203-731-2544.