One Family's Story in Darien, CT: Should an Irresponsible Sibling Care for your Parent?


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One Family's Story in Darien, CT: Should an Irresponsible Sibling Care for your Parent?

Caregivers in Darien, CTI am 56 years old and for most of my adult life I have watched my younger sister, who is 52, take advantage of our parents. She has been irresponsible with her relationships and her money and it has cost my parents much of their life savings. No matter what I had said to them, even though they said they understood, they always seemed to help her out by giving her money or buying things that she needed or bailing her out of a financial crises.

Now my mother has asked my sister to be her caregiver. My sister agreed to move in with my mother to take care of her and I have mixed emotions. On the one hand, I’m going to be relieved that someone else will be in the house with my mother. I have worried about her for some time and I even talk to her about having a professional home care provider work with her.

She didn’t want to talk about that, mostly because she didn’t think it was worth the expense to incur. I tried to advise her that a home care provider would not only provide the right level support for her, but they could also help her get back out and involved in some of the activities she used to enjoy.

She didn’t believe me. I thought she believed that she was more than capable of taking care of herself, but when she told me that my sister would be moving in to take care of her, I knew she recognized the need for assistance.

On the other hand, the idea of my sister being a caregiver to anybody is just mind numbing. My sister still goes out to bars several times a week and cavorts with all sorts of people. I am concerned that she is only doing this because it is rent-free and her mother has agreed to pay her weekly for her services.

The only way that I could truly deal with the situation was to have a stern talk with my sister. I’m sure this will cause more tension between us, but I need her to know that our mother’s care has to come first, before all of her addictions and other issues. I have tried to convince my mother that this is not a good idea, but she is not listening.

Only time will tell whether I am right or if my sister is finally growing up. I am of the belief that you cannot teach an old dog new tricks. I hope my sister is going to change once she realizes that someone else’s life depends on her maturity and care. A part of me wishes that my mother had hired a professional caregiver, but I support her in anything she does.

If you or an aging loved one are considering caregivers in Darien, CT or the surrounding areas, please contact SYNERGY HomeCare of Stamford, CT at (203) 340-0652.

Caleena Namdev, Owner, SYNERGY HomeCare Stamford

Caleena Namdev is the President and Owner of Synergy HomeCare in Stamford, Connecticut. She is a graduate of University of Connecticut. Caleena has been working with seniors for a long time - whether it was her volunteer work with the IRS, or her role at the prestigious trust and estate law firm in Darien. Providing guidance to seniors and family members so they can get the help they need, is a passion for Caleena.

"Hi - I am Caleena Namdev, President and Owner of Synergy HomeCare in Stamford, Connecticut. Our entire staff at SYNERGY HomeCare wishes to extend you our warmest welcome. We know that searching for personalized, high quality care for your loved one is difficult. Your loved ones deserve the highest level of care and support. At SYNERGY HomeCare, we strive to exceed the high standards that you have set for their care. Please call my office at (203) 661-6969 and speak to a member of my CareTEAM™.

When you call us, you will be speaking with Stamford's most reliable, professionally managed, non-medical homecare agency - an agency, you can depend on for the care of your loved ones, whether you live around town, or thousands of miles away. You will also be speaking with an agency, where the owners are directly involved in ensuring that your loved ones get the highest level of care. We are SWCCA approved and are able to work directly with your long term insurance provider and worker's compensation insurance provider."

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