Senior Care in Old Greenwich, CT - Overcoming a Strained Relationship with Your Elderly Parent When You Must Become their Caregiver
Although many people consider becoming the caregiver to their elderly parents an honor and the chance to give back to the parents that did so much for them, not everyone feels the same way. For example, it may turn out you are required to look after a parent who perhaps did not look after you well when you were a child; they may have even been mentally or emotionally abusive. If you want and need to forgive them to enable you to move forward – but don’t know how – please consider some of the following tips.
Focus On the Present
While you may not want to forget, you can forgive by concentrating on the now, the present and leaving the past in the past. It is a waste of time and energy overthinking and stressing over things that have already happened and can’t be changed. It is much better for your own mental health to forgive parents for their past failings and stop judging them by these.
Work On a Fresh Relationship
It is possible to have a healthier relationship with your parents, even if you feel resentment towards them. You have to break the negative cycle connected to your childhood experiences with your parents. Let go of the inattention and neglect you suffered and concentrate on working on a new and fresh relationship with your elderly parents.
Be Understanding of Their Flaws
Although nothing can excuse their neglect or abuse, it is important to understand they were raised by flawed parents who may even have passed on some of the bad traits they had when raising you. By understanding how they themselves came to be flawed, it may make it easier to appreciate them and care for them while they are still alive.
Although it is true you can’t control what happened in the past, you can control your attitude to the past. You can choose each and every day the type of person you want to be. Are you going to be a “half empty’ or ‘half full’ kind of person? Having the right attitude can help you to control your happiness and destiny.
Participate in Counseling
If you still find it difficult to forgive your elderly parents for the way they treated you in the past, you should consider arranging to have counseling with a trained therapist who will be able to guide you as you work through your feelings. Counseling can teach you:
- Coping techniques that will help you understand your parents actions in the past
- How to get over the resentment you feel towards them
- How to move forward
While working on a better relationship with your parent, consider hiring senior care services to provide quality and loving caregiving a few days a week. You need some time to yourself and to spend with the other people in your life.
If you or an aging loved one are considering senior care in Old Greenwich, CT or the surrounding areas, please contact SYNERGY HomeCare of Stamford, CT at 203-661-6969.