Elder Care in Norwalk, CT
The thought of losing your aging parents is not something that you want to dwell on, particularly when you are trying to focus on fulfilling their daily needs and ensuring they live the healthiest, happiest, and safest quality of life possible. Ignoring this potential, however, can have lasting negative consequences. Truly compassionate elder care is about appreciating your elderly loved ones for the time you have them, but also being ready, and making sure they are ready, for the end-of-life transition. By taking the time to prepare yourself and your loved ones for loss you can avoid much of the stress and pain of severe anticipatory grief and make the transition smoother for everyone.
Preparing for the loss of a loved one involves both seeking emotional readiness and putting plans into place to carry on with life after the loss. For many people, the emotional aspects of the preparation are the most difficult. Dreading the loss of a loved one, whether you expect the loss in the coming weeks or not until well in the future, is known as anticipatory grief. When not handled properly this grief can lead to debilitating mental and emotional effects such as depression and anxiety. Preparing for the loss can ease this stress by making you feel more confident about the entire experience, and can put your loved ones' minds at ease knowing you feel better about the situation.
Use these tips to help you prepare for loss in your elder care plan:
• Delegate preparation. Do not try to handle all of the preparation tasks on your own. Trying to take care of too many things can leave you mentally and physically exhausted, which in turn will make it that much more difficult for you to face all of your other responsibilities. Use a family website or private social networking page to divvy up responsibilities among your siblings and other family members so that you can each focus on your task and not get worn down.
• Let the loved one talk. If the loss is imminent, make sure that you are not so wrapped up in your tasks that you forget to listen to what your loved one has to say. Let him express his feelings, confirm his wishes, and provide you with comfort he can offer. Do not push him, however. If he does not want to talk about the situation, do not try to force him to.
• Express yourself now. Too many people wait until a memorial service to express their love for the people they have lost. Do not let the time you have left go by without expressing the things you need to, whether it is just another confirmation of your love, an apology, or extending your forgiveness. Encourage others to take the time to show their love now rather than focusing on their sadness or struggling to "say goodbye."
• Make plans. Even if a loss is not expected in the next few days or weeks, try to get some basic plans into place. Knowing where all of the important documents are located, confirming your loved one's wishes regarding burial or cremation, and even making sure his will is in order can make you feel more prepared now and in control later.
If you or an aging loved one are considering elder care in Norwalk, CT or the surrounding areas, please contact SYNERGY HomeCare of Stamford, CT at 203-661-6969.