Elder Care in Darien CT
Limiting beliefs are statements that you tell yourself, consciously or unconsciously, that put a limitation on a situation you're in. In the case of being a family caregiver, limiting beliefs can color how you go about your caregiving duties or even keep you from taking time for yourself.
"I Alone Am Responsible for My Loved One's Health"
This belief is a serious problem because it means that somewhere deep inside you feel solely responsible for whether your loved one remains healthy or not. That's way too much responsibility for one person to shoulder alone and it's patently false. There are a wide variety of variables that influence your elderly loved one's health and your ability to care for her is only a small part of those variables. If she has a health setback, it's not your fault.
"Only I Can Do This Correctly"
If you've caught yourself believing this one, you probably feel that you're all alone in your caregiving journey. Chances are good that other family members might pitch in to help more often if they weren't concerned about doing something "wrong." You may also feel less compelled to hire elder care providers, even knowing that they're experienced with caring for loved ones just like yours. You may need to take a step back and adjust your perspective.
"I Made a Promise to My Loved One"
Promises made to loved ones are definitely important, but too many times the situation can change, making that promise impossible to keep. If your elderly loved one needs more care than you can reasonably give her, you may have to change her living situation, even if you promised her that you wouldn't. there's no way to foresee every possibility, so you can't know when you might have to go back on your word in order to provide the best care possible for your elderly loved one.
"If I Don't Care for My Loved One, No One Will"
This belief is related to the one that says you're the only one who can do the job right. It's possible that up until now, no one else has stepped up to help your elderly loved one. That doesn't mean that others won't, though. Often other family members see you taking such good care of your loved one and aren't sure how to help. Educating the rest of the family can help with this problem.
If you've identified some of your own limiting beliefs, you may need help to get rid of them completely. Enlist the help of a therapist or counselor that you trust.
If you or an aging loved one are considering elder care in Darien, CT or the surrounding areas, please contact SYNERGY HomeCare of Stamford, CT at 203-661-6969.