For many seniors, the need for any type of home care may signal a loss of independence and cause feelings of fear, frustration, sadness or anxiety. The following tips and techniques will help put a positive light on home care and address the top fears your loved one may have.
Ask Questions and Address Fears
Most importantly, put yourself in your loved one's place and imagine what questions and concerns you might have about home care. Some common concerns seniors have include:
- Does this signal a loss of privacy or dignity?
- Will I lose my independence?
- Can we afford it?
- What type of person is the home caregiver?
- Will I still be able to do the things I enjoy?
By asking your loved one about specific fears and concerns they might have, you will get a better idea of how to help them. Always be reassuring, positive and truthful, reminding your parent or loved one that home care is designed to help maintain independence, not take it away.
If your loved one becomes agitated or angry at the very mention of home care, remember that anger is a secondary emotion. Underneath that angry exterior, your loved one is very likely feeling vulnerable or frightened. It is vital that you are reassuring right now, expressing love and compassion. Let your loved one know that you deeply care about their wishes, independence, and happiness.
Involve Your Loved One in the Process
If possible, help empower your loved one by getting them involved in the process of choosing what type of home care is needed. There are many different types of services, and they may not need each and every one. By allowing your loved one to be an active part of the decision-making process, when possible, they will feel more in control of their own life and more open to the idea of home care.
Focus on the Positives
All big changes in life can be challenging, but the process of receiving help with home care can be a truly a positive experience when you stay focused on the positives. Be sure to share this with your loved one. Some positives to focus on when talking about home care include:
- The companionship that home care provides
- Staying in the home and maintaining independence
- Having help with difficult activities frees up time for enjoyable projects or hobbies
- The affordability of home care
- Better overall health
- Fall reductions and safety precautions to reduce hospitalizations/rehab stays
- Medication assistance
- Transportation to and assistance with medical appointments
If needed, sit down and make a pros and cons list with your loved one, as having a visual aid can be a wonderful tool.
Getting your loved one to say yes to home care is possible with patience, a positive approach and open communication. Take your free online needs assessment today, and discover how wonderful home care can be!